GAMES FOR PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE COUPLES – GAME 2: HEADACHE (PART 5) | Pharmacynote

Apr
09
2009

GAMES FOR PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE COUPLES – GAME 2: HEADACHE (PART 5)

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This is the way the conversation might go, but it will of course vary according to the couple. (In some cases it may be the husband who gets headaches, and the wife will wear some white article of clothing, such as a nurse’s or nun’s hat—white symbolizing purity.)

If the active spouse can manage to pull off this abrupt change in attitude with sincerity, it can have amazing results. The wife may throw herself into his arms right away, disarmed by this new attitude and the mysterious, provocative bow tie. The fact of the tie, plus his statement that she could remove it only when they have sex, will immediately put their sexual relationship on a different plane: Instead of the whining corn-plainer for whom she must do her duty, he becomes a charming, teasing challenge. And he will in fact be mirroring her own mode, offering care while withholding sex.

In more difficult cases, it may take a while to break down the wife’s resistance. The husband must be prepared to wait as long as necessary, pouring on the kindness and bearing her skepticism and anger with grace. It is a game of wills, and he must funnel his own anger into this constructive battle, killing (defeating) her with kindness. Eventually, if he persists, she will surrender.

Once she does, a new balance will have been accomplished. She will have given herself to him not out of guilt or duty, but because at last she really wanted to. And he will have taken perhaps his first step in learning the value of constructive charm.