AN A-Z OF EMOTIONAL PAIN: LONELINESS

Mar
20
2009

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Some people are loners and they don’t want anyone entering their space. Their opposites are people who want to collect everyone together and share. They are ‘we’ people. It is a most difficult thing for one to understand the other because they don’t think alike.

Loners want to be asked if they would like to do something. They may have reasons why they’d prefer not to, but they want to be given a choice. ‘We’ people want to be included because to them it means that you care. They’ll change their plans to accommodate yours just so they can share.

This means it’s difficult to help T people until they decide to help themselves. You can try to organise them, include them in your plans, but if you haven’t consulted them first, your efforts will be in vain. Don’t you worry about it: they don’t.

People who love company create it. They search out things to do. They’ll ring up charities to ask how they can help. They’ll find the column in the paper asking for helpers. Potential loneliness is replaced by constructive and loving sharing of their experience, time and generosity.

Solo people find it hard to socialise and make friends. It takes determination to join an organisation that caters for your special interests, or become involved in a class where you will learn something new, while meeting people of similar interests. To make a friend you must first be a friend. Act friendly and helpful so potential friends will be attracted to you.

Depending on the circumstance, I would advise taking water violet, impatiens, agrimony, mimulus, chicory or heather. A combination of five is recommended to be taken whenever you are overcome by loneliness.